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Rominger & Whare provides representation in the areas of divorce law and in the areas of spousal and child support. Under Pennsylvania Law, there need not be grounds for divorce, except that the marriage be irretrievably broken. There are also still fault divorces for cruel and barbarous treatment, desertion, and adultery. Determining what type of divorce is in your best interests requires consultation with an experienced attorney.

We represent clients in all phases and types of divorces. This includes representation in the awarding of alimony and the division of property. In Pennsylvania, parties to a marriage are entitled to the division of marital property on an equitable (not equal) basis. While equitable often equates to a fairly even split of the assets and debts, it can be weighted much differently depending upon the relative contributions of both parties.

The laws controlling equitable distribution and divorce are extremely complex. There are many rules and exceptions to those rules that the Court will employ in determining who is entitled to what. Therefore, representation early in the case is important in helping the parties determine what they can take from the marriage, and aggressive representation is important in maximizing the benefits one will take from a marriage.

The no fault divorce, where there is no property available for equitable distribution, is a fairly routine matter that a competent lawyer can walk you through without any complications.

In Pennsylvania, child support and spousal support are also available through the County Domestic Relations Offices. A hearing officer determines the amount of support a party must pay. There are many rules that govern support and an experienced attorney can often decide if any of the exceptions apply to you and thereby, increase or decrease your support payments. In addition, if you are not happy with what the Domestic Relations Office assigns to you for support, you have the right to appeal to the Court of Common Pleas for a hearing de novo (new hearing), which starts from scratch. At the hearing de novo, a lawyer would represent you in front of a judge in determining your support amount.

While support is often mechanical, in so much as the state has guidelines, which are applied, the guidelines can be deviated from for any number of reasons that are contained in the Rules of Civil Procedure, and as required by law. Therefore, the guidelines may or may not apply to you. Consultation with an experienced attorney will help you determine whether or not the guidelines do apply to your case.

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Getting divorced or thinking about it? You’ve got lots of company. More than half of all marriages in the U.S. today will end in divorce. As painful as the decision to get divorced may be, the process of getting it done can be even more painful. Litigated divorces can take years to wind their way through the Courts, costing tens of thousands of dollars in legal fees. All too often, the lawyers involved take extreme positions. The good will that existed between the couple can be destroyed in the process, and children and other loved ones can be caught in the adversarial cross-fire.

We provide a better way for New Jersey couples to get divorced. We help couples conclude their divorce in a matter of weeks and months, not years and at a fraction of the cost of litigated divorces. And we do it in a way where good will is preserved and built upon. Children and other loved ones are spared the nastiness of litigation. In short, we offer divorce for grown ups. It's smarter divorce.

Our mediators are David C. Barry and Laura Bowne Barry, experienced attorneys and respected divorce mediators. With warmth, insight, and a focus on the practical, they guide couples through issues such as parenting plans and child support, equitable distribution, spousal support and all other relevant issues. The result is a divorce agreement that works exceedingly well for the individuals involved because it has been custom-tailored for them.

© 2005 Divorce Mediation of New Jersey, LLC

Divorce laws are complex and vary greatly from state to state. The manner in which family law issues are interpreted by the courts even varies within different geographical regions of individual states. Divorce lawyers representing individuals affected by divorce must therefore be familiar with local divorce law.

Because Divorce Interactive is arranged geographically by telephone area code, it is theoretically composed of approximately 300 sites, each containing local divorce and family law information and information about local divorce lawyers and other local divorce resources. This increases the likelihood that visitors to Divorce Interactive will be able to better understand divorce and child support laws in their particular geographical areas and to identify matrimonial lawyers and other divorce professionals familiar with the various aspects of local family law. The specific divorce attorney you hire can very easily affect the ultimate outcome of your divorce. You must therefore choose your lawyer wisely

Family law encompasses such issues as child support, child custody arrangements, including joint custody agreements, alimony, legal separation and child visitation, among others. Articles about divorce laws and family law issues by divorce lawyers and other divorce professionals can be found in the Divorce Resource Library. Divorce Interactive has a large resource directory containing listings of divorce lawyers, marriage counselors, divorce support groups and other divorce services. Unless your situation is very simple, you will probably need to research local divorce attorneys and possibly even such professionals as forensic accountants, business appraisers, marriage and family therapists and certified divorce planners in putting together your divorce team.

Divorce Interactive also contains information about divorce mediation, an alternative to litigation that is growing in popularity. In mediation, the parties negotiate their own divorce with the help of a mediator, who acts as a facilitator. Most mediators are divorce lawyers, marriage therapists or other types of counselors. One advantage of mediation is that it allows participants to deviate, when appropriate, from strict adherence to existing divorce laws.

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Many young adults can not only accept their parents’ divorce but much suffer from emotional and psychological stresses. They are affected by late divorces even more than kids are, because they understand they will not have a complete family any more. Among emotional and psychological stresses which affect young adults the deepest ones are the following: anger because of loss of ideal-family illusion, feeling of abandoned child who one of the parents do not want to care of any more, disappointment and unbelief in long-term relationships between men and women, extreme behavior to either draw parents’ attention to them or show their disagreement with parents’ decision; devaluation of morals which have been valued before.

Such strong negative emotions will inevitably affect young adults future life and decisions. Unhappy family model will ‘help’ to believe there is no any reason to create a family in a future because all men (women) are ‘betrayers’.

Another poor affect, which most occurs among young adult children rather than kids, is inevitable weakening in relations with either mother or father. Usually the weakened relationships happen between daughter and father, son and mother. It can be explained by the most popular motive of divorce initiation: end of physical attraction and sexual desire. Young adult children can accept all people have to change their partners through life, but they cannot accept this would happen to their parents! Therefore, a daughter cannot excuse her father’s desire to have another woman and a son would accuse his mother of adultery.

Although so strong affects overwhelm young adults’ behavior, emotions, motives and desires the adult children have still willingness to restore their family harmony and they initiate some actions which, they think, would help to re-connect their parents. The most popular and accepted ideas include: increased financial aid demand from both parents (such demands would show the both parents’ guilt), decreased assistance or full refusal to help mother/father with their home/family duties (if there is no family its duties have no any values any more).

The psychological aspect mostly includes the human nature resistance to accept changes. The ability to be changeable is usually experienced through adult life (different works, new people, traveling, relationships and work stresses etc.). Inexperienced young adult children are not able to accept the complete change in their lives especially if they are not ready to them (the parents’ decision to divorce has been a full surprise). Here parents are mistakenly sure their adult children would accept their final decision and they should not be involved in parents’ bad relationships discussion. Adult children must have a right to be respected through sincere discussion and explanation of what is happening to their parents’ relationships. Sometimes children’s involvement into divorce discussion helps to turn the discussion into the new and unexpected decision.

by Sharon White

Yes, there might be one thousand reasons why you want to get divorced.

Of course, only you know how you feel and why you want to take this step in your relationship.

Look, if you already made the decision, well... that's fine, maybe you think nobody in the world can make you think it over and give you and your spouse another shot.

I won't try to make you change your mind; I'm nobody to do such a thing; however, allow me to tell you the way I see this situation.

Look my friend, if God's will is that you and your spouse take different paths, nothing, and I mean nothing you do will change that.

There are only two things you have to do.

First, you have to try, with all your heart, to be the best person you can be.

How will this help you?

Well, if you are the one who doesn't want to get divorced, by being the best person in the world will make your mate realize the mistake he/she is making and sooner or later he/she will regret it.

Also, by being the best person in the world, God will do what's best for you, either send you the right person for you or make you have the strength you need in this moment to let it go.

Second. Just take this a one more page in the story of your life.

Remember the good things you lived with your spouse and let life go on.

Please, whatever you do, don't even think about suicide.

Nobody said life would be easy.

Besides, problems are what makes life exciting and worth it to be lived at its fullest.

By Victor C.

Sometimes married couples do not get along and find that they are never going to make the marriage work. That is when a divorce comes into mind. A divorce is a legal action between married people to terminate their marriage relationship. It is a hard time for all that is involved.

There is something that is called a no fault divorce. This means that the court does not get in to why the couple wants to be divorced. It used to be that the person starting the divorce had to prove certain reasons for getting divorced. Some of these reasons included adultery or abuse. This time was often difficult for the couple and even a little embarrassing. The questions of what parties had been doing are private and these topics come out in the courtroom.

Now the law is different and it allows one of the parties to get a divorce if he or she states in court that the marriage is irretrievably broken. Usually the judge will not ask any other questions about the marriage and allow the divorce to move on.

In some divorces, however, they can get messy and there are many emotions brought out in court. This is a hard time to deal with and many people go through very depressing times. In some of the instances, one party does not want the divorce and they will fight it with all that they have. This will make the situation harder on both parties.

Some court systems will want to make sure that the couple is doing the right thing. They will in some cases order the couple to seek counseling. This is usually only for the couples that there is hope for. This is not for everyone and it is important to do only if one or both of the parties involved thinks that there is a chance for reconciliation.

People often times give up on their marriage too quickly. In some cases, they never really give the other person or the marriage a chance. There are hard times in all marriages and some people decide to try and work it out, while others tend to just want to give it all up as fast as they can.

It is always best to do what makes both parties happy and able to move on and get back to living the rest of their life. Going through a divorce will be one of the toughest things a person can live through.

Put an end to the stress and anxiety of not knowing what to do to save your troubled marriage and discover proven methods to getting your marriage back on track - even if you are the only one who wants to work on it.

By Barry McDonald

Most people become quite nervous when they have to reveal many things about a private period in their lives that were once confidential and taken for granted. This only makes matters worse and makes a visit with the lawyer discomforting if you can't think what to ask and of course ease your nerves and anxiety. Hopefully these following questions will help you get through the meeting with the attorney without too much trouble.

These questions are important in that you should ask them of any divorce lawyer you are considering to help you through your case. Divorce lawyers differ in their approach from firm to firm and even though they have the same laws to work with.

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- How long have you been practicing law?

- How much of your entire practice is specifically in family law?

- What is your hourly rate?

- Do you have other people who usually work on your cases with you? If so, what is their profession and experience?

- What do you charge for their time?

- What do you anticipate is the role that these people will have in my divorce?

- What is the retainer amount? Is any of it refunded if I should change my mind or we decide to not go through with the divorce?

- What other types of charges besides attorneys fees are there likely be? (Long distance telephone, copies, facsimile charges, etc.)

- Describe a time line for how you believe my divorce will progress.

- Do you have a set procedure for handling a divorce case? If so, please describe how you would proceed with a typical divorce case.

- What do you expect from me as a client?

- What percentage of your divorce cases are resolved by a trial versus the percentage that are settled?

Important: Once you've gained the answers to the questions above and any additional questions you may have added, be sure to ask what expectations do they have in relation to the outcome of the case given the information you have supplied. If you find they brush off any real answer, you may want to keep on looking. If they can't give you a rough idea (based on your principal input) then this is not any good to you. You need to know approximately where you stand for many financial and planning purposes.

By Kitty Barker

Ignorance is the most common trap you will face when getting divorced. To get through your divorce with the most peace of mind, while spending the least amount of money, you need to know all the facts and have all relevant documents in order.


It's tempting to ignore financial details, but if you don't take the trouble to understand what's going on in your financial life and what you're entitled to, you might as well hang a big "victim" sign around your neck.


Ignorance makes you feel helpless and makes it easy for you to be manipulated into accepting a bad deal.


The worst thing you can do is go to a lawyer without any information or preparation and ask for a divorce help. You'll waste a lot of time and money, and you won't receive the respect given an informed client.

Bad Judgment is a real hazard when emotions are running high, as is normal in divorce. Insecurity can cripple you. Fear and anger can make you grasp for too much or surrender too much, leading to a settlement you may regret.


Keep business and emotional issues separate.


Don't jump to sudden conclusions or make impulsive agreements.


Don't sign anything you haven't thought about or don't understand.

Excessive Spending is very common before, during and after a separation. It is used as an anesthetic for emotional pain. After separation you need money to set up two separate lifestyles, and can't afford neurotic spending driven by emotional upset.


Control impulsive and compulsive spending the same way you would control neurotic eating habits.


Do all you can to keep yourself open, centered and strong.


Deal with your emotional issues instead of reacting and running from them.

Hiding Money can happen when it becomes clear that a divorce is coming and one spouse starts salting money away in a private stash.


This is OK if you do it without cheating--it can give you a sense of security, independence and control.


Be on the lookout for cheating, where your spouse may be secretly diverting marital assets into a separate account. You may need an attorney to protect the marital estate and your interest in it.


When a divorce is coming, watch where income goes and keep a close eye on account withdrawals. Take a close look at financial transactions during the previous year.

If you make the effort to avoid the common divorce traps of ignorance, bad judgment, excessive spending, and hiding money it will pay off handsomely in reduced conflict, stress and expense during your divorce.

By Ed Sherman

Divorce is a very hard time for everyone to deal with. It can be very hard on a person emotionally and physically as well. This is especially true for children. They have to have the proper help during this difficult time. They need to know and understand that it is not their fault and that both parents still love them very much.

Parents are going to have to work hard at putting aside their anger and hard feelings toward each other. They have to sit down and make an arrangement that will be suitable to them and to the children. This is going too much easier and less painful than having to go into court and have them decide this for you.

You have to be able to pull together with your spouse and help the children. This is the only way to help them through this hard time. If one parent decides to go against their commitment to help their child the responsible way, you should still keep your values as a parent and help them the best that you can.

You should not keep the divorce a secret from the children. You need to tell them when you make your decision and what is going to happen. Try to give them at least a little bit of notice before the parent moves out so that the child can have the time to deal with it and ask questions. Reassure the child that both parents are still going to be there for them and that nothing has changed in that sense.

Do not put blame on anyone when you are talking to your children. Do not put down the other parent in any way. It is important that the children know that they still have two dependable and trustworthy parents to take care of them. Let them know that it was a mutual decision and that you both did your best to avoid this ending.

Make your child aware that they are not going to be able to get the both of you back together. Tell them that there is nothing that they can do to make the situation go away. Also make it clear to them where they are going to live and that they can see the other parent any time they want to. You can tell them that there may be some changes in that later on, but it is not going to affect their relationship. Give them the opportunity to ask you any questions that they may have for you both.

Giving the child the right information and not too much information is important. You do not want them to feel anxious or worry about anything that is not their concern. They have to feel comfortable with the news that you told them and give them some time to adjust to the idea.

Put an end to the stress and anxiety of not knowing what to do to save your troubled marriage and discover proven methods to getting your marriage back on track - even if you are the only one who wants to work on it!

By Barry McDonald

There are many types of divorce articles available on the Internet by a variety of authors. What's below will help you get the most out of the divorce articles here on this site and anywhere else. The below information about divorce articles holds true for most any type of articles on the Internet as well.

When people seek out divorce help on the Internet, they usually want some sort of information that will help them solve a problem they may be encountering. Of course, the article seeker may just want to be informed about a certain subject for a variety of other reasons. In order for someone to get the most out of divorce articles, they should consider the following items:


1. divorce article validity based on the source:


When reading a divorce article, consider what the writer has in the way or credibility via credentials or life experience. Writers don't necessarily have to have advanced degrees to write a credible divorce article, they just have to have a true life experience that helps or otherwise informs in some way for the good of the reader.


2. divorce article goal:


If you're reading a divorce article and you find yourself wondering what they goal of it is, try to figure out what the writer's intention was when writing the article. articles are written for a variety of reasons...to inform, to help someone improve their life, to sell a book, to sell a service or product, etc. Just because a divorce article is designed to sell a product or service as the end goal, it doesn't make that article less valid...if the intentions of the reader are also to help someone, and the reader gets something out of the article, chances are it is a worthwhile article.


3. Secondary message of the divorce article:


Take a look at what the divorce article is saying behind the scenes. Assess what you think the divorce article is trying to get across that isn't always apparent at the first reading. Sometimes authors deliberately write so the reader has to think a little more than in casual reading in order to fully get the message.


If the divorce article is designed to sell a product or service, decide whether or not the divorce article's theme goes hand in hand with the product or service...does it add value or complement the offering? If so, decide whether you'd like to try the product or service or at least review the product or service to see if it is for you. A reader can tell a lot about the product or service owner by the way the article is written. Is it off topic? Is it detailed? Will the concepts explained in the divorce article apply directly to you?


When reading divorce articles or any other articles on the Internet, always remember that the article is there for a reason. If the author seems to have good intentions (revealed in delivering useful information that you can benefit from) chances are the author may have other articles or information worth your time.

by Karl Augustine

A recent statistic shows that almost half of all marriages end in divorce. divorce is difficult for everyone involved, but maybe the hardest on children. Most often they experience many feelings that they do not understand. They go through a range of emotions and need their parents to understand. If you are going through a divorce getting to understand how your children are dealing with it is important.

When parents divorce they often put their children in the center of arguments and a game of emotional tug of war. To avoid this sort of thing parents need to work together. Even though their marriage is over they are still parents together. The child needs to understand many things about the divorce. Parents need to keep in touch with their children and understand the many feelings they may be having. Older children, especially, can go through periods where they act out as a way to cope with the divorce. Many times children feel the divorce is their fault. They may worry about the future and how to deal with other events, like parent's day at school. Both parents need to show the children that they can work together and not fight. At the same time it is important to let the children know that you are not getting back together. Establishing some sort of family structure is a necessity to help children get back to "normal".

children will react different depending on their age. The following list explains a little about each age group and how they react to divorce.

Age 3-5: Regression to a more infantile state, problems sleeping, fear of separation

Age 6-8: Fantasies of parents getting back together, open emotions

Age 8-11: Anger, treat one parent as good the other as bad, take a caregiver role

Age 12-18: Depression, violent actions, judgmental of parents, develop anxiety about own relationships

Learning to help your children cope through divorce is possible the most important step in the divorce process. children have no choice in the matter and may feel completely left out if their feelings are not recognized.

by stephen kreutzer